by Cindy Walker Burton

It’s so cold I hate this weather. It’s so hot I hate this weather. There’s nothing to do around here. I had to wait a long time in the checkout line. My get up and go just got up and went. My smart phone isn’t the latest generation. My house is too small. My car is really old. I don’t have a big social media following. My clothes aren’t trendy. My friend ghosted me. Travel advisory to chronic complainers: Caution! You have entered the No Whine Zone. Buckle up and shut up (please and thank you). I’ll be your guide to a brand new destination called Perspective. Get a grip and button your lip. Let’s proceed.

Here’s a quote for all the garrulous grumblers: “Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining. It bores everyone, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” Human resources categorizes types of complaints as productive, venting, chronic, and malicious. Which describes your personal brand of carping? I suggest instead of finding fault, try finding a solution. The Apostle Paul in Philippians 2:14 says, “Do everything without complaining and arguing.” I believe he was encouraging an attitude of gratitude.

Complaining is the habitual and excessive expression of dissatisfaction or negativity. The top three states with the most complainers are Mississippi, Alabama, and Nevada. Missouri doesn’t even rank in the top 10, so stop with the griping and grousing! Here’s some serious perspective. According to some sources, if you have food in your fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of the world. Chew on that for a moment bellyachers. Digest it slowly.

Research shows the negative effects of chronic complaining include increased stress and anxiety, a weakened immune system, reduced wellbeing, damaged relationships, and reduced problem solving skills. For cryin’ out loud! Do you need any more reasons to kick the kvetching habit? Conversely, complaining in a positive, constructive manner can be a tool for seeking support, solutions, and to express legitimate concerns. However, I’m only addressing negative complaining herein to adjust your perspective.

Complaining is draining. Complaining is not conversation it’s condemnation. God bless whoever quipped, “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain. And most fools do.” In conclusion Foolish Whiners, this proverb should provoke you to revoke your rantings: “I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet.” We have now reached our final destination called Perspective. Proceed with caution. Travel safely.